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The following personality types have been compared:
|Independent Thinker: introverted, theoretical, logical, planning, rational, independent, intellectual, self-confident, analytical, structured, dogged, witty, resolute, self-critical, visionary, inventive, independent, unsociable, reserved, nonconformist, quiet, visionary, honest, demanding, hardworking|
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|Dreamy Idealist: introverted, theoretical, emotional, spontaneous, idealistic, dreamy, effusive, pleasant, reserved, friendly, passionate, loyal, perfectionist, helpful, creative, composed, curious, obstinate, with integrity, willing to make sacrifices, romantic, cautious, shy, peace-loving, vulnerable, sensitive, communicative, imaginative|
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Compatibility analysisYou have two type preferences in common, which still guarantees a good deal of similarity in many ways (and therefore a comfortable relationship). On the other hand, you have to handle more or less serious conflicts which usually arise from your differences on the other two preferences. Try to balance the joys and frustrations of your partnership and bear in mind that learning from each other is more helpful than fighting each other!
You are both conscientious and serious people who like to spend a lot of time alone. Your need for privacy, rest and silence is crucial to keep your energy level. Talkative people, never ending conversations and big social events are torture for both of you. You rather prefer a nice, intimate evening alone with your partner or few close friends. Sometimes you even have to withdraw yourself from the one you love, but this is no source of frustration in your quiet, stable relationship as you respect and understand each other‘s wish for retreat - you know that the emotional connection between you is deep and reliable anyway.
The sharing of the second preference - „intuition“ - guarantees a very special intellectual connection between the two of you. You are both driven by a unique perspective and a vision of how the world could be. Hours will pass unnoticed, while you plunge into deep discussions about your ideas, theories, possibilities, the meaning of life, and a thousand other things - these are usually your best times together. You love and admire each other‘s creativity and ingenuity and never fail to inspire each other. Since neither of you pays close attention to routine or mundane details, practical matters such as paying bills, maintaining the home or taking the car to the long-overdue inspection may often be neglected - but who cares! You are perfectly happy together in your world full of stimulating and challenging debates and fantasies and don‘t give a damn about everyday bits and pieces.
The conflicts you two have to deal with usually stem from your difference regarding the third type preference: The „thinking“ partner often is uncomfortable and even impatient when dealing with emotions, so he inadvertently hurts his partner‘s feelings - not really seldom, as „feeling“ types tend to take anything very personally anyway and are unable to take things with a pinch of salt. In return, the emotional outbursts of the feeling partner are a real challenge to thinking types, as well as his tendency to base his decisions on how he feels about an issue rather than on objective and locigal observations. This difference may be a considerable problem for a relationship and requires a lot of tolerance and will to compromise on both sides: The feeling partner has to learn not to be offended so quickly and stand a debate while the thinking partner‘s job is not to dismiss his partner‘s feelings as insiginificant or overreactions. Try to see this difference as complementary strenghts rather than faults in character!
The difference between you regarding the fourth type preference is the source of probably most of your day-to-day conflicts. While the „judging“ one has a strong need for order, in-time management of things and accountability, the „perceiving“ one doesn‘t give a damn about clutter on the kitchen counter, overdue bills or the piles of cloth in the bedroom. This can cause constant frustration on both sides: the judging one feels irritated by the way the perceiving one makes promises he can‘t keep, leaves projects half-finished and constantly messes up rooms and plans. In return, the perceiving one often feels critized and nagged about details he sees as irrelevant or silly and sometimes resists plans and organization simply to fight the idea of being stuck in a cage. Try to find a compromise to reduce the annoying little fights and debates resulting from this difference: meet halfway between the spontaneous chaos of the perceiving and the strict order of the judging one and keep in mind that none of you wants to offend the other deliberately by his behaviour.