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The following personality types have been compared:
|Harmony-seeking Idealist: introverted, theoretical, emotional, planning, idealistic, harmony-seeking, understanding, peace-loving, sensitive, quiet, sympathetic, conscientious, dogged, complicated, inconspicuous, warm-hearted, complex, imaginative, inspiring, helpful, demanding, communicative, reserved, vulnerable|
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|Laid-back Doer: extroverted, practical, emotional, spontaneous, enthusiastic, friendly, playful, lively, talkative, nonchalant, tolerant, happy, pleasant, generous, flexible, wily, attractive, relationship-oriented, generous, adventurous, fun-loving, creative, helpful, action-loving, casual, sociable, open, sensitive, touchy, erratic, curious, noncommittal, action-loving|
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Compatibility analysisAs you two share only one of the four type preferences, you face some real challenges in your daily lives. You often have to deal with miscommunication, different values or needs and sometimes really struggle to find an agreement you both can accept. Nevertheless, opposites attract - if you both try to be particularly respectful and tolerant rather than fighting your differences you‘ll lead an exciting and animated relationship.
Your different social needs may create some frustrations in your relationship. While the introverted partner is content to maintain a small group of close friends and likes to spend a lot of time on his own, often lost in his thoughts, the extroverted partner desperately hungers for contact, social interaction and being engaged in a variety of activities. The extroverted may feel frustrated by his partner‘s need to retreat from everyone - even from the one he loves. The introverted, in return, may be overwhelmed by his partner‘s quick and sometimes impatient way of communication. So you both tend to end up in a cat-and-mouse game: the extroverted chasing the introverted, constantly asking questions like „how do you feel?“, „a penny for your thoughts!“ or „do you still love me?“ ... Try to respect these differences rather than to fight them and learn to appreciate your partner‘s special strenghts as a potential completion of yours.
While the „sensing“ partner of you is good at paying close attention to the present and seeing clearly what needs to be done right now, the „intuitive“ partner ist good at anticipating future and developing plans and visions. This difference is a source of conflict between you two, als the more realistic and practical sensing partner sometimes is lacking interest in the intuitive one‘s more abstract and future-oriented ideas. In return, the theoretical and more global thinking intuitive partner often neglects the down-to-earth activities and interests of the sensing one. Make sure to encourage each other to pursue your own interests, but always take time as well to listen to and to support each other. If not, you‘ll run the risk that the intuitive of you feels overburdened and slowed by unnecessary specifics while the sensing one has trouble and feels stressed in following the intuitive through dreaming up new schemes. Help each other grow and develop new strenghts instead!
Your sharing of the third type preference - „feeling“ - helps you experience a strong emotional connection unlike any either of you could have with a thinking partner. Both of you care deeply about each other and bring a high degree of commitment to your relationship. You are both very sensitive and warm, love to help and please each other and appreciate the fact that this works vice versa. Feeling people like you two place a high value on harmony in their relationship and try to avoid anything that might upset their partner (often enough at own cost), so that finding a compromise and reassuring each other is your common top goal. Neither of you will ever miss an opportunity to pay the other a compliment or praise the quality of your partnership!
The difference between you regarding the fourth type preference is the source of probably most of your day-to-day conflicts. While the „judging“ one has a strong need for order, in-time management of things and accountability, the „perceiving“ one doesn‘t give a damn about clutter on the kitchen counter, overdue bills or the piles of cloth in the bedroom. This can cause constant frustration on both sides: the judging one feels irritated by the way the perceiving one makes promises he can‘t keep, leaves projects half-finished and constantly messes up rooms and plans. In return, the perceiving one often feels critized and nagged about details he sees as irrelevant or silly and sometimes resists plans and organization simply to fight the idea of being stuck in a cage. Try to find a compromise to reduce the annoying little fights and debates resulting from this difference: meet halfway between the spontaneous chaos of the perceiving and the strict order of the judging one and keep in mind that none of you wants to offend the other deliberately by his behaviour.