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The following personality types have been compared:
|Harmony-seeking Idealist: introverted, theoretical, emotional, planning, idealistic, harmony-seeking, understanding, peace-loving, sensitive, quiet, sympathetic, conscientious, dogged, complicated, inconspicuous, warm-hearted, complex, imaginative, inspiring, helpful, demanding, communicative, reserved, vulnerable|
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|Determined Realist: extroverted, practical, logical, planning, direct, structured, conscientious, responsible-minded, self-confident, critical, honest, orderly, reliable, controlled, objective, able to concentrate, resolved, purposeful, communicative, with a sense of duty, tradition-conscious, stable, able to deal with conflicts, solution-oriented, relationship-oriented, efficient, impatient, warm-hearted, competition-oriented|
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Compatibility analysisAs you two share only one of the four type preferences, you face some real challenges in your daily lives. You often have to deal with miscommunication, different values or needs and sometimes really struggle to find an agreement you both can accept. Nevertheless, opposites attract - if you both try to be particularly respectful and tolerant rather than fighting your differences you‘ll lead an exciting and animated relationship.
Your different social needs may create some frustrations in your relationship. While the introverted partner is content to maintain a small group of close friends and likes to spend a lot of time on his own, often lost in his thoughts, the extroverted partner desperately hungers for contact, social interaction and being engaged in a variety of activities. The extroverted may feel frustrated by his partner‘s need to retreat from everyone - even from the one he loves. The introverted, in return, may be overwhelmed by his partner‘s quick and sometimes impatient way of communication. So you both tend to end up in a cat-and-mouse game: the extroverted chasing the introverted, constantly asking questions like „how do you feel?“, „a penny for your thoughts!“ or „do you still love me?“ ... Try to respect these differences rather than to fight them and learn to appreciate your partner‘s special strenghts as a potential completion of yours.
While the „sensing“ partner of you is good at paying close attention to the present and seeing clearly what needs to be done right now, the „intuitive“ partner ist good at anticipating future and developing plans and visions. This difference is a source of conflict between you two, als the more realistic and practical sensing partner sometimes is lacking interest in the intuitive one‘s more abstract and future-oriented ideas. In return, the theoretical and more global thinking intuitive partner often neglects the down-to-earth activities and interests of the sensing one. Make sure to encourage each other to pursue your own interests, but always take time as well to listen to and to support each other. If not, you‘ll run the risk that the intuitive of you feels overburdened and slowed by unnecessary specifics while the sensing one has trouble and feels stressed in following the intuitive through dreaming up new schemes. Help each other grow and develop new strenghts instead!
The conflicts you two have to deal with usually stem from your difference regarding the third type preference: The „thinking“ partner often is uncomfortable and even impatient when dealing with emotions, so he inadvertently hurts his partner‘s feelings - not really seldom, as „feeling“ types tend to take anything very personally anyway and are unable to take things with a pinch of salt. In return, the emotional outbursts of the feeling partner are a real challenge to thinking types, as well as his tendency to base his decisions on how he feels about an issue rather than on objective and locigal observations. This difference may be a considerable problem for a relationship and requires a lot of tolerance and will to compromise on both sides: The feeling partner has to learn not to be offended so quickly and stand a debate while the thinking partner‘s job is not to dismiss his partner‘s feelings as insiginificant or overreactions. Try to see this difference as complementary strenghts rather than faults in character!
You have the fourth type preference - „judging“ - in common and therefore share a need to have things settled, planned and organized. Therefore, you both like to research your options quickly and make almost instant decisions rather than hanging on endlessly, hesitating and procrastinating. You both enjoy a neat and tidy home, are responsible about your household chores and never ever miss an important deadline. As you are both quite goal-oriented, you often help each other accomplish great things by supporting and encouraging each other within your means. Neither of you values sudden changes, interruptions or surprises of your daily routine. You can rely on each other in every respect - and you know and appreciate this very special quality of your relationship.