Your iPersonic compatibility check
The following personality types have been compared:
|Engaged Idealist: extroverted, theoretical, emotional, planning, idealistic, committed, likable, enthusiastic, responsible, helpful, loyal, diplomatic, friendly, inspiring, caring, solicitous, optimistic, effusive, adaptable, communicative, articulate, convincing, energetic, optimistic, open, vulnerable|
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|Independent Thinker: introverted, theoretical, logical, planning, rational, independent, intellectual, self-confident, analytical, structured, dogged, witty, resolute, self-critical, visionary, inventive, independent, unsociable, reserved, nonconformist, quiet, visionary, honest, demanding, hardworking|
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Compatibility analysisYou have two type preferences in common, which still guarantees a good deal of similarity in many ways (and therefore a comfortable relationship). On the other hand, you have to handle more or less serious conflicts which usually arise from your differences on the other two preferences. Try to balance the joys and frustrations of your partnership and bear in mind that learning from each other is more helpful than fighting each other!
Your different social needs may create some frustrations in your relationship. While the introverted partner is content to maintain a small group of close friends and likes to spend a lot of time on his own, often lost in his thoughts, the extroverted partner desperately hungers for contact, social interaction and being engaged in a variety of activities. The extroverted may feel frustrated by his partner‘s need to retreat from everyone - even from the one he loves. The introverted, in return, may be overwhelmed by his partner‘s quick and sometimes impatient way of communication. So you both tend to end up in a cat-and-mouse game: the extroverted chasing the introverted, constantly asking questions like „how do you feel?“, „a penny for your thoughts!“ or „do you still love me?“ ... Try to respect these differences rather than to fight them and learn to appreciate your partner‘s special strenghts as a potential completion of yours.
The sharing of the second preference - „intuition“ - guarantees a very special intellectual connection between the two of you. You are both driven by a unique perspective and a vision of how the world could be. Hours will pass unnoticed, while you plunge into deep discussions about your ideas, theories, possibilities, the meaning of life, and a thousand other things - these are usually your best times together. You love and admire each other‘s creativity and ingenuity and never fail to inspire each other. Since neither of you pays close attention to routine or mundane details, practical matters such as paying bills, maintaining the home or taking the car to the long-overdue inspection may often be neglected - but who cares! You are perfectly happy together in your world full of stimulating and challenging debates and fantasies and don‘t give a damn about everyday bits and pieces.
The conflicts you two have to deal with usually stem from your difference regarding the third type preference: The „thinking“ partner often is uncomfortable and even impatient when dealing with emotions, so he inadvertently hurts his partner‘s feelings - not really seldom, as „feeling“ types tend to take anything very personally anyway and are unable to take things with a pinch of salt. In return, the emotional outbursts of the feeling partner are a real challenge to thinking types, as well as his tendency to base his decisions on how he feels about an issue rather than on objective and locigal observations. This difference may be a considerable problem for a relationship and requires a lot of tolerance and will to compromise on both sides: The feeling partner has to learn not to be offended so quickly and stand a debate while the thinking partner‘s job is not to dismiss his partner‘s feelings as insiginificant or overreactions. Try to see this difference as complementary strenghts rather than faults in character!
You have the fourth type preference - „judging“ - in common and therefore share a need to have things settled, planned and organized. Therefore, you both like to research your options quickly and make almost instant decisions rather than hanging on endlessly, hesitating and procrastinating. You both enjoy a neat and tidy home, are responsible about your household chores and never ever miss an important deadline. As you are both quite goal-oriented, you often help each other accomplish great things by supporting and encouraging each other within your means. Neither of you values sudden changes, interruptions or surprises of your daily routine. You can rely on each other in every respect - and you know and appreciate this very special quality of your relationship.