Your iPersonic compatibility check
The following personality types have been compared:
|Engaged Idealist: extroverted, theoretical, emotional, planning, idealistic, committed, likable, enthusiastic, responsible, helpful, loyal, diplomatic, friendly, inspiring, caring, solicitous, optimistic, effusive, adaptable, communicative, articulate, convincing, energetic, optimistic, open, vulnerable|
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|Individualistic Doer: introverted, practical, logical, spontaneous, adventurous, resolved, independent, fearless, loyal, analytical, realistic, optimistic, interested, quiet, curious, circumspect, individualistic, action-loving, venturesome, cool, dispassionate, reserved, skilful, confident, independent, communicative, down-to-earth|
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Compatibility analysisYour personality types are completely opposite - and as the saying is: opposites attract. However, you often experience conflict and frustration that stem from your different preferences. If you manage to handle these with respect and tolerance and learn to help each other grow and develop, you will have an interesting and enriching relationship full of challenge and excitement - but never twiddle your thumbs as it won‘t come as a gift!
Your different social needs may create some frustrations in your relationship. While the introverted partner is content to maintain a small group of close friends and likes to spend a lot of time on his own, often lost in his thoughts, the extroverted partner desperately hungers for contact, social interaction and being engaged in a variety of activities. The extroverted may feel frustrated by his partner‘s need to retreat from everyone - even from the one he loves. The introverted, in return, may be overwhelmed by his partner‘s quick and sometimes impatient way of communication. So you both tend to end up in a cat-and-mouse game: the extroverted chasing the introverted, constantly asking questions like „how do you feel?“, „a penny for your thoughts!“ or „do you still love me?“ ... Try to respect these differences rather than to fight them and learn to appreciate your partner‘s special strenghts as a potential completion of yours.
While the „sensing“ partner of you is good at paying close attention to the present and seeing clearly what needs to be done right now, the „intuitive“ partner ist good at anticipating future and developing plans and visions. This difference is a source of conflict between you two, als the more realistic and practical sensing partner sometimes is lacking interest in the intuitive one‘s more abstract and future-oriented ideas. In return, the theoretical and more global thinking intuitive partner often neglects the down-to-earth activities and interests of the sensing one. Make sure to encourage each other to pursue your own interests, but always take time as well to listen to and to support each other. If not, you‘ll run the risk that the intuitive of you feels overburdened and slowed by unnecessary specifics while the sensing one has trouble and feels stressed in following the intuitive through dreaming up new schemes. Help each other grow and develop new strenghts instead!
The conflicts you two have to deal with usually stem from your difference regarding the third type preference: The „thinking“ partner often is uncomfortable and even impatient when dealing with emotions, so he inadvertently hurts his partner‘s feelings - not really seldom, as „feeling“ types tend to take anything very personally anyway and are unable to take things with a pinch of salt. In return, the emotional outbursts of the feeling partner are a real challenge to thinking types, as well as his tendency to base his decisions on how he feels about an issue rather than on objective and locigal observations. This difference may be a considerable problem for a relationship and requires a lot of tolerance and will to compromise on both sides: The feeling partner has to learn not to be offended so quickly and stand a debate while the thinking partner‘s job is not to dismiss his partner‘s feelings as insiginificant or overreactions. Try to see this difference as complementary strenghts rather than faults in character!
The difference between you regarding the fourth type preference is the source of probably most of your day-to-day conflicts. While the „judging“ one has a strong need for order, in-time management of things and accountability, the „perceiving“ one doesn‘t give a damn about clutter on the kitchen counter, overdue bills or the piles of cloth in the bedroom. This can cause constant frustration on both sides: the judging one feels irritated by the way the perceiving one makes promises he can‘t keep, leaves projects half-finished and constantly messes up rooms and plans. In return, the perceiving one often feels critized and nagged about details he sees as irrelevant or silly and sometimes resists plans and organization simply to fight the idea of being stuck in a cage. Try to find a compromise to reduce the annoying little fights and debates resulting from this difference: meet halfway between the spontaneous chaos of the perceiving and the strict order of the judging one and keep in mind that none of you wants to offend the other deliberately by his behaviour.